Let me set the scene about what it looked like in DC amongst my group of friends to socialize in our 20s. Somebody would send a text; or yell up the stairs in a group house; or send an email; or maybe awkwardly utilize the then-brand-new Twitter to send a tweet suggesting an evening plan. (Yes, Twitter in 2007 was used for stuff like ‘going to dc9 in a few minutes any1 want to join’; this was before it turned into a platform that reflected your career and before any of us had more than 20 followers.) I would estimate that 75% of the time we would end up at the aforementioned DC9 - one of the only bars on U street around that time -- drinking pitchers of Miller Lite until 1am and feeding dollars to the jukebox to play a Dismemberment Plan song. Somehow we were never hungover the next day. All told, it was fun, easy, and always spontaneous.
Fastforward 10 years. People have marriages, kids, careers that demand they not be presenting to the board the next day with unwashed hair and a low-level hangover. Some of us try -- futilely -- to keep in shape, so are spending time at the gym in the evenings or rolling out of bed for early morning runs. We more often live alone, with partners or in our own apartments, so you can’t just yell up the stairs if anybody wants to go grab dinner or expect that every Sunday night, without any formal planning, you’ll be huddling around the TV for whatever HBO drama is playing out. Socializing with friends got hard.
Enter UPTIGHT PLANNING LADY (that’s me, could somebody create me a logo please and thanks) to tell you about how I’ve managed to still socialize several times a week in meaningful ways with groups of friends. I’m very happy with my social life. I talk to a lot of people daily and I would say, although I’m single and live alone, I probably socialize 3-4 times a week in real life with people, and multiple times a day virtually (which I count).
How do I do it? Here are my secrets: 1. Bucket your friend groups into the ways in which you can socialize with them and 2. Plan everything, preferably around clubs or formal activities.